Behind Closed Doors: Judaism’s View of Intimacy
Is G-d comfortable in the bedroom? Rather than eschew or scoff at this
question, Jewish sages throughout history have embraced it. Not only is
physical intimacy not an obstacle to our relationship with G-d, according to
our sages, but in the right context, it is a means of connecting with G-d. Far
from the philosophies of religions that view sexual relations as a hindrance
to living a holy life, Judaism views intimacy as the “holy of holies,” and not
only because of its procreative value. It unites husband and wife in the ultimate
unity, a oneness in which G-d’s presence is expressed.
How can we ensure that sexual relations are not routine and bereft of
meaning, but an experience that is deeply fulfilling, meaningful, and holy?
It all depends on the degree of intimacy—in soul, mind, heart, and body—between
husband and wife. This lesson taps into Judaism’s vast reservoir of
wisdom, both practical and Kabbalistic, on how to understand, deepen, and
enhance the experience of intimacy.